What is Betrayal Trauma?

Did you know the heart break and confusion you feel when someone you depend on has violated you trust, or well-being has a name? Betrayal trauma describes this emotional impact, and in adulthood usually occurs within romantic relationships. In adulthood, betrayal trauma within your intimate relationships can look like physical, emotional, verbal, or sexual abuse, secretive behaviors, or infidelity.

Experiencing betrayal trauma may lead you to pull away from the person who betrayed you, however this isn’t always possible, and you might find yourself accepting the betrayal to ensure your safety or to meet certain needs. Through this blog, we will identify signs of betrayal trauma, provide resources for seeking support and moving forward, and expert advice from the Jessica Yaffa Coaching Institute.

Signs of betrayal trauma

Betrayal trauma in a romantic relationship can often lead to difficulty trusting and feelings of insecurity. Other signs of betrayal trauma include:

  • Difficulty controlling emotions
  • Suspicion and hypervigilance
  • Depression, anxiety, and other mental health symptoms
  • Negative beliefs about yourself
  • Missing school and/or work
  • Substance use
  • Disordered eating

Seeking support

Beginning the recovery process and seeking support to cope with betrayal trauma is an exciting step in the right direction. The journey will look different for everyone, but we’ll share a variety of strategies so that you can decide which fit best in your life and healing journey.

  • Therapists and relationship coaches are trained to help support you though unpacking relationship trauma.
  • Mindful practices and exercises like meditating, journaling, and practicing self-compassion can help you to accept difficult emotions and cope with feelings productively.
  • Turning to close friends or family members for support can help you to process your feelings and feel emotionally safe to process them

Jessica’s offerings

Relationship coaches are equipped to support you in your journey of recognizing and recovering from betrayal trauma. At the Jessica Yaffa Coaching Institute, relationship coaches offer both one on one and couples’ sessions to help you better understand yourself in the context of an intimate relationship. Coaching sessions are tailored to meet your unique needs and often surround topics related to self-worth, unhealthy dynamics, toxic patterns, communication, pre-marital preparation, and goal setting. The institute also offers online relational workshops in addition to in person relational retreats that create a supportive and empowering environment to enhance interpersonal connections and emotional intimacy. You can find more information about relationship coaching and relational workshops and retreats at https://www.jessicayaffa.org/relationship-coach/ , https://www.jessicayaffa.org/relationship-workshops/ , and https://www.jessicayaffa.org/relational-retreats/