Couple working on relationship in spring flower fieldsThe season has changed and it’s time to clean up your life for the better by spring cleaning toxic relationship patterns from your life. Take spring cleaning as the opportunity to remove toxic influences from your life and start working on relationships with those around you and yourself.

10 toxic influences to remove from your life

  1. Overusing technology

Technology has the power to influence our emotions, self esteem, and productivity. Think of what you consume on your device in the same way you do the people you associate with. Keep it positive, and enjoy a regular digital detox.

  1. Substances

The correlation between substance misuse and trauma from relationship issues is undeniable. Remove substances from your life and begin to develop healthy coping mechanisms.

  1. Miscommunication

Healthy communication, especially with your partner, doesn’t always come easy. But it won’t improve if you don’t work on it. Do away with miscommunication and commit to building trust, open dialogue, and vulnerability with yourself and your partner. If you are having issues relating in healthy ways with your partner, coaching might help.

  1. Negative self talk

What you say to yourself matters. Stop repeating harsh criticisms and remove words like always, never, and negative adjectives from your vocabulary, especially when directing them at yourself. Replace all negative self talk with constant reminders of your self worth.

  1. Saying yes when you don’t want to

If you don’t want to attend whatever latest social event you’ve been invited to, say no. Stop saying yes to things when you don’t want to. Say yes to the things that bring you happiness, not just to please others.

  1. Isolation

Just like you shouldn’t say yes to everything, you also shouldn’t decline every invitation. Spending too much time alone can make depression worse. Push yourself to spend quality time building relationships with friends and family.

  1. Conflict

If certain people or situations seem to attract conflict, remove yourself from their proximity. Life is hectic enough, you don’t need the added turmoil from toxic energy to make it harder.

  1. Unhealthy Relationships

Whether it is relationships with friends, family, loved ones, coworkers, or anything else – if the dynamic is unhealthy by your standards, it can trigger anxiety and trauma symptoms. Be mindful of who you give your time and energy to and cut it out when needed.

  1. Emotional Unintelligence

Emotional intelligence is crucial to the happiness of you and those around you. Characteristics like not being able to control emotions, offending people, not respecting cultural differences are all toxic influences that impact those around you. Likewise those behaviors can have an affect you too so be mindful of your immediate circle.

  1. Stress

Stress is everywhere, especially when it goes unmanaged. Eliminate unnecessary stress from your life, like overbooking yourself, worrying about things you can’t control, or overthinking and building problems up to seem bigger than they are.

If you are struggling with any of these toxic influences and would like support, consider the benefits one of our healthy relationship workshops. Our relationship workshops focus on building healthy relationships with yourself and those around you, across the entire spectrum of life. They will help you be compassionate toward yourself and others and build authentic, positive connections.

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