As the New Year approaches, it is the perfect time to take a moment to reflect on the health status of your relationships. Whether it be with friends, family, coworkers, or a significant other, the end of the year is a great time to strengthen connections with your loved ones and renew love with them. If you are looking for ways to make your relationships even stronger in 2020, consider a few of the tips below!
1. Improve Communication Techniques
While many of us hope to use healthy and positive communication methods in our relationships, it is much easier said than done. Here are a few ways you can improve the way you communicate and renew love in your relationships:
- Have regular relationship check-ins— show your loved ones that you genuinely care about them on a consistent basis. Having emotional support from a loved one can mean the world.
- Don’t make assumptions about the other person’s feelings—sometimes body language can speak volumes, but unless you explicitly ask them what they are feeling, you are running the danger of miscommunication.
- Practice honesty and humility. Are you being honest about your feelings or frustrations with your partner? The best place to start is to make sure you are being honest with yourself about the areas in the relationship that may need some work.
2. Look Into a Relationship Coach
Relationship coaches are becoming a more common occurrence in today’s day and age. Many people tend to think a relationship coach or therapist are only necessary when a relationship is in trouble. However, the reality is quite different, as a relationship coach can be extremely beneficial in boosting the already positive aspects of your connection. If you are in the San Diego area and are interested in having a relationship coach help you and your partner learn more healthy patterns, consider reaching out to Jessica Yaffa. Ms. Yaffa offers both on-line and in-person relationship workshop programs that are designed to help individuals and couples improve their relationships and connect from an authentic, compassionate place.
3. Be Wary of Toxic Relationships
Healthy relationships tend to make one feel empowered, safe, and happy. Toxic relationships tend to make you feel anxious or even exhausted. Toxic relationships tend to happen when two individuals are in an unhealthy pattern—this can happen with friends, a romantic partner, or even a co-worker. Toxic relationships are typically bred from one individual feeling insecure, needing control, or dominance. Many times, toxic relationships are also accompanied by emotional or even physical abuse. Take a moment to assess the relationships in your life and determine if there are people that may be better to say goodbye to in 2020.
4. Know What You Deserve
One thing that tends to feed toxic relationships is the belief that you don’t deserve to be treated better. Before putting time or energy into any relationship, make sure you are confident in yourself and sure of your worth. If you do not love and care about yourself, you cannot expect someone else to. Take some time to get to know yourself, your beliefs, goals and renew love from within. This will help to foster more positive and healthy relationships in the future.
5. Get Rid of Negative Talk
Negative self-talk can be extremely detrimental to our own egos and confidence. If you speak to yourself in a negative or aggressive way, it is typical that you will speak to others like that. Negative self-talk can be a huge burden within relationships as it tends to cause blame or anger. It is important to understand that we have to be gentle and understanding with both ourselves and with others or there is little hope of improving relationships in 2020.