Types of Relationship Coaching Offered by Jessica:
Individual Relationship Coaching
Whether we are aware or not, all of us grow up receiving messages surrounding our worth and value as people. The meaning we subconsciously attach to these messages directly influence who it is we choose to be in intimate relationships with. Many of us recognize over time that we seem to be picking the same “type” of person and often don’t understand why it is we continue to end up in this same space. Relationship coaching provides a safe and unconditional space to transform the beliefs we have held onto, sometimes for years, about who we are (or aren’t), what we are deserving of, and where our worth and value comes from (or doesn’t). As we work towards creating a new “internal story”, our external choices pertaining to relationships begin to shift naturally. This is where long-lasting change occurs, rather than focusing on the toxic relationship, it is imperative that we focus on what it is that we hold true while re-writing the story that has existed long before we entered into intimacy.
Two people show up in relationship with their own stories about who they are, both separately and collectively. We work hard, sometimes to the point of exhaustion in order to change either ourselves or our partner in order to “fit” into what it is we determine we (or they) need in order to have a “successful” relationship. Couples coaching provides a safe and non-judgmental space to receive support around how it is our individual perception of self directly influences how we show up in intimate relationship, while also exploring the ways our partner is affected by our “living out our story”. Whether you are wanting to lay a solid foundation for healthy communication, vulnerability, authenticity, and connection, or have hit a large road-block, couples coaching can positively influence navigating the complexities that exist in each of these scenarios.
Marriage is beautiful, and marriage can be hard. We often enter into marriage having a picture in our minds of what our life will now look like with the partner we have chosen to be our forever-mate, only to discover that we sometimes feel like we actually don’t know them at all. Marriage coaching provides an unconditional space to flush out the obstacles that can arise around the “real life stuff” that surfaces when we add finances, careers, gender roles, children, sex, extended family, and all of the other circumstances that can provide us with opportunities to grow together rather than apart.
How is Relationship Coaching Different Than Therapy?
Most of the people that engage in coaching services also have a therapist. The primary difference between coaching and therapy is that a therapist will often lead us into spaces where we uncover our past in order to learn, grow, and heal. A coach’s focus is around allowing his/her client to bring their past into the present so that they are able to shift perspectives, behavior, and ultimately their way of being, all of which is driven by the client. Coaches and therapists often work in conjunction with one another in order to allow for a client to experience the fullness of healing and thriving.
Who is A Good Candidate for Relationship Coaching?
Everyone. We all have the desire to live in healthy, happy, connected, and fulfilling relationships. With the additional support, accountability, and connection that a relationship coach provides, we can explore new ways of thinking and being both in relation to our current partner, as well as in future relationships for those who have experienced unhealthy patterns in the past. Preparing ourselves to live from a space of wholeness and fullness benefits every area of our lives, including but not limited to intimacy.
Interested in group sessions? Learn more about our relationship workshops.