Leaving an Abusive Relationship: Changing that Negative Tape

Leaving an Abusive Relationship: Changing that Negative Tape by Jessica Yaffa, BA, CPC When we are told over and over again that we are unlovable, unworthy, untrustworthy, and incompetent, our brain begins to believe this to be true. As we prepare to exit an unhealthy relationship it is important that we work on changing our […]

Self-Care in the Context of an Abusive Relationship

Self-Care in the Context of an Abusive Relationship by Jessica Yaffa, BA, CPC What is Self-Care? Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Although it’s a simple concept in theory, it’s something we very often overlook. Good self-care is key to improved […]

Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too

Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too While we are making great strides in creating safe spaces for abused women to come forward, it’s important to remember that men can be victims, too. Not only do we need to recognize the extent of male victimization, we need to create safe spaces for them to come […]

4 Ways to Combat Isolation in an Unhealthy Relationship

4 Ways to Combat Isolation in an Unhealthy Relationship If you’ve ever been in an unhealthy, or even abusive, relationship, you know just how isolating it can be. You may have withdrawn because you feel embarrassed, or ashamed, or otherwise don’t want to be judged. Or, you may be withdrawn because your partner is controlling […]

When is it Rape?

When is it Rape? by Jessica Yaffa, Certified Relationship Coach In short, the answer to the question, “When is it rape?” is: Any sexual activity performed without consent of the other person. What is Sexual Consent? Consent is when someone agrees, gives permission, or says “yes” to sexual activity with other persons. Consent is always […]

Heterosexual Women Are Not the Only Ones

Heterosexual Women Are Not the Only Ones Suffering from Domestic Violence   Most of what we hear about intimate partner violence refers to heterosexual women, but they are not the only ones who suffer from domestic violence. Statistics show that one out of three women and one out of four men will be subjected to […]

How to Recognize Signs of Abuse and How to Help

How to Recognize Signs of Abuse and How to Help Has someone you know suffered from domestic violence? If you cannot think of someone, think again. Recent statistics show that 25% of women and 14% of men have been, or will be, subjected to intimate partner abuse. Every minute of every day, twenty people fall […]

When Abuse Turns Deadly

When Abuse Turns Deadly And How to Get Help When Suffering from Domestic Violence   Intimate relationships are a central part of our lives. A relationship might evolve as a happy surprise, or something deliberately and lovingly nurtured over time. But, sometimes, even a loving partnership can turn into domestic violence. You may not notice […]

Top Books on Domestic Violence and Relationship Abuse

Top books for survivors of relationship abuse and the professionals who work with them. Whether you are a professional working with those affected by domestic violence, or a survivor yourself, navigating the complex feelings attached to relationship abuse can often be both confusing at the very least, and even overwhelming. While the recommended reading list […]

Vicarious Trauma

While it can be quite easy to make assumptions about how well therapists are able to care for themselves despite the significant experiences of trauma they ingest on behalf of their clients, it is imperative that we be reminded of how profoundly clinicians, first responders, and healthcare professionals in general can be (and often are) […]