Stonewalling: From the Cold Shoulder to a Warm One

Known as one of the Four Horsemen that kills relationships, John Gottman describes stonewalling as someone withdrawing from an interaction, shutting down, and ceasing to respond to their partner. “Rather than confronting the issues with their partner, people who stonewall can make evasive maneuvers such as tuning out, turning away, acting busy, or engaging in […]

Delegating the Mental Load of Managing a Home

In an interview recently published in The Atlantic, Joe Pinsker talks with Kate Mangino about highlights of her new book, Equal Partners: Improving Gender Equality at Home. The book explores the inequalities between partners when it comes to the mental labor of running a household, and the interview looks more closely at some of they […]

8 Types of Love: Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love

The Triangular Theory of Love: 8 Types of Romantic Love One framework for understanding love is known as Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love, and is especially helpful in defining romantic relationships. Sternberg posits that there are 3 main components (passion, intimacy, and commitment) that makeup 8 types of love. To best understand this framework, it […]

Tips for Those Who Work with Survivors of Abuse

Interview with Jessica Yaffa: 7 Ways Professionals Can Better Help Survivors of Abuse Disclaimer: The tips in this article apply to addressing and responding to abuse when the individual is an adult. While some of the tips may apply to helping children, professional obligations when a child is involved can differ greatly. In a recent […]

7 Tips for Healthy Arguing

7 Tips for Healthy Arguing “It’s amazing! We never argue! Our relationship is so easy!” Raise your hand if you’ve met this couple before. You can also raise your hand if you’ve always thought that couple somehow managed to land the perfect relationship – the elusive relationship that we all strive for – the easy, […]

5 Relationship Killers

Ok, so maybe “relationship killers” is a strong term. Maybe these 5 things we’re unpacking won’t kill your relationship, but they can certainly create strain. On the other hand, if left unaddressed, it’s possible one or more of these things could cause irreparable damage to your partnership. Of course, no two relationships are the same, […]

A Love Language

“Understanding your partner’s childhood traumas & triggers is a love language.” – @RicchRody (twitter) This quote by twitter user @RicchRody has been floating around as a re-share on different social media networks. This statement is so simple, yet profoundly impactful, and in an effort to keep the message alive in a noisy online space, we’re […]

How Can a Love Coach Help?

When we think of the term, “love coach,” we tend to draw up the visual of a mentor helping a lonely individual who is unlucky in love. While this may be the case for some coaching relationships, for most people, a “love coach” is so much more than someone who guides them toward love with […]

Should I Text My Ex?

It’s the million-dollar question of post-breakup status: Should I text my ex? If you’re asking yourself this question, you’re not alone. In fact, in the era of coronavirus, more people than ever are tempted to reopen the lines of communication with an ex. Whether it’s loneliness, bitterness, fondness, or hopes for reconciliation, there’s a host […]

Why Did I Get Ghosted?

Getting ghosted sucks. No longer just a term used by the dating pool to describe someone who disappears without explanation, ghosting and its psychological impact has even made its way into esteemed psychological journals, indicating ghosting has a reach that’s far and wide, and a lasting impact that can be harmful. So nope, it’s not […]