October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM). This month is dedicated to breaking the cycle as well as having a zero tolerance for domestic violence with an emphasis on enabling survivors to be heard. Domestic violence affects millions—survivors, their children, friends, family, and community. October is the month to raise awareness surrounding domestic violence and to support the rights of all individuals. Domestic Violence Awareness Month began in 1981 by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence as a day of unity to connect survivors and women’s advocates across the United States. Today, thousands of individuals across hundreds of organizations take part in recognizing October as the month to take a stance against domestic violence. One way to show support this month is by wearing the color of domestic violence, purple. To take it one step further, consider snapping a picture of your purple outfit with the hashtag #DVAM (or one of the many options mentioned below) to join in on the conversation. Below are just a few of the resources and events to choose from:
National Resource Center on Domestic Violence:
The Domestic Violence Awareness Project (DVAP), a project of the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence, has plenty of free resources such as data sheets, campaign ideas, artwork, training resources, and events lists for the month of October (as well as the rest of the year). Each October, the DVAP chooses a theme, and this year it is “#1Thing.” The #1Thing campaign surrounds the idea that “one person’s actions may seem insignificant, but together a communities’ collective “#1Things” can lead to real social transformation.” What have you done that alone may not seem like much, but as a collective will really start moving the needle? A few examples of what would be considered #1thing include, but are not limited to:
- Reach out to your local domestic violence program
- Talk to loved ones about oppression and violence
- Use social media to raise awareness
- Write to legislation
- Raise awareness of oppression and violence amongst my co-workers
National Network to End Domestic Violence
The National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) has two of their own hashtags you can follow along to boost your awareness this month. The first is “#31n31” where NNEDV will share 31 moments that have been critical in creating the larger movement against domestic violence. The second hashtag is #Safety4Survivors and this is where individuals share moments that help to promote safety for domestic violence survivors in today’s world.
NNEDV also hosts an October “Week of Action” from Sunday, October 20, 2019 to Saturday, October 26, 2019. While it is not always possible to donate your time or money, taking part in the Week of Action is an easy way to be directly involved in raising awareness via social media – check out what themes are left for the rest of the week:
Tuesday, October 16: Twitter Chat Tuesday
Follow @NNEDV and join the chat on Twitter, Tuesday October 16th from 3:00 – 4:00 PM. The topic will be #Safety4Survivors. See highlights from the 2017 #Safety4Survivors Twitter Chat in English and Spanish
Wednesday, October 17: #WokeWednesday
One way to ensure you are speaking for those who can’t is by making sure you are registered to vote. Register to vote here.
Thursday, October 18: #PurpleThursday
Thursday is the day to wear purple to show support for both survivors and ending domestic violence for good. Don’t forget to share your outfit and participate on social media with the hashtag #purplethursday.
Friday, October 19: Fame Friday
You can find mention of domestic violence in many types of pop culture (books, movies, media)—this is just a part of what shapes how we, as a society, talk about domestic violence. Use Friday the 19th to take a moment to reframe the common (and hurtful) domestic violence narratives that are so common in today’s world.
Saturday, October 20: #TechSafety Saturday
Newly emerging technology continues to have a major impact on survivors. It is very important to understand how technology can be misused to harm survivors as well as help to hold offenders accountable and act as a source of connection for survivors. Download NNEDV’s Tech Safety App as a first step.
Breakthecycle.org is taking part in DVAM by running three campaigns across the month of October. The first is a partnership with Verizon where every message containing #voiceshavepower (submitted through the website, or is texted to #94079) Verizon will donate $3 towards preventing domestic violence. Next, they are working with It’s On Us to raise awareness against domestic violence by encouraging individuals to take the pledge against sexual assault and being a bystander. Finally, Breakthecycle.org has connected The National Domestic Violence Hotline with the National Football League. The NFL will provide the Hotline with much needed resources to keep up with demand and to keep survivors and their families safe.
NoMore.org’s October campaign is #ChangeHappensHere. #ChangeHappensHere means that “no matter who or where we are, we are capable of making change to end domestic violence in the places that we live, work, and play.” They are also running an initiative where you can download and print a “NoMore” sign to include in your social media posts with hashtags #ChangeHappensHere and/or #DVAM to show your stance against behaviors that support domestic violence.
The YWCA of San Diego has provided a list of events you can attend in the San Diego area before the end of October:
North HOPE Event – North County Live Well Center – 649 West Mission Avenue, Escondido
October 16, 11:00 am-1:00 pm
Healthy relationships resource fair for consumers and staff at the North County Live Well Center.
Central HOPE Event – CARE Community Center – 12 n Euclid Ave, National City
October 19, 9:00am-3:00pm
Event includes speakers on domestic violence from multiple agencies, free health screenings, resource fair, children’s activities, food and giveaways.
East HOPE Event – El Cajon Police Department – 100 Civic Center Way, El Cajon
October 21, Walk begins at 9:30am
Event will include a rally walk from the El Cajon Police station to the Prescott Promenade, speakers and resource fair.
October is not the only time to talk about domestic violence. If you, or someone you know needs relationship advice or advice surrounding domestic violence in the San Diego area, consider reaching out to Jessica Yaffa. Jessica Yaffa, a survivor of extreme domestic violence, is an internationally-known relationship expert, speaker, trainer, and coach. There is always 24/7 chat available via at the National Domestic Abuse Hotline, but if you are in danger, please call 911.