Self-Compassion In Relationships

SELF-COMPASSION IN RELATIONSHIPS Self-compassion is an important aspect of learning to love and care for ourselves and is just as important to cultivating healthy relationships. Life, and in particular relationships, can be difficult. Some of us are in relationships that feel challenging each day, while others feel mostly positive about our relationships, having moments or […]

Stonewalling: From the Cold Shoulder to a Warm One

Known as one of the Four Horsemen that kills relationships, John Gottman describes stonewalling as someone withdrawing from an interaction, shutting down, and ceasing to respond to their partner. “Rather than confronting the issues with their partner, people who stonewall can make evasive maneuvers such as tuning out, turning away, acting busy, or engaging in […]

Delegating the Mental Load of Managing a Home

In an interview recently published in The Atlantic, Joe Pinsker talks with Kate Mangino about highlights of her new book, Equal Partners: Improving Gender Equality at Home. The book explores the inequalities between partners when it comes to the mental labor of running a household, and the interview looks more closely at some of they […]

Falling In Love with the Idea of Someone

Most of us come to a point in a relationship when we ask ourselves if we’re in love. Whether it’s been a long-term relationship, a new relationship, someone we’re dating, or even a crush, we usually arrive here at some point or another. While there is no “right” answer, there are some additional questions we […]

Recovering After Cheating

Infidelity can often mean the end of a relationship. At the very least, it creates a vacuum of trust and security in a relationship. If you and your partner are recovering after cheating, it might bring some comfort to know that research shows relationships and partners can heal from the trauma of cheating. Below, we […]

How to Strengthen a Relationship: 40 Tips You Can Use Right Now

Feeling a bit disconnected from your partner? Relationship feeling stale? You’re not alone. In fact, it’s perfectly normal for feelings, chemistry, and a sense of deep connection to wax and wane in a relationship. The good news is that, as humans, we are designed to connect and there are many ways, even simple ones, that […]

A Stale Relationship: 10 Tips for Getting Out of a Relationship Rut

You’ve been feeling it for the past few months, maybe even years. Maybe it crept in seemingly overnight, or maybe it was a slow and steady process that sucked the vitality right out of your relationship. Whether it arrived like a whisper or a rollercoaster, the staleness of your relationship is rearing its head and […]

Fueled By Fear: Navigating Relationships When We’re Afraid They’re Going To Leave

Fear of Abandonment The fear of abandonment is real. It’s human nature, really. As social creatures, we are wired for connection – in fact, our very survival depends on it. It’s common to feel a little nervous when we perceive even a hint of rejection from someone we’re attracted to, but for some, that feeling […]

Personal Space and Self-Care During Lockdown

Things have certainly changed in the last few months. With the lock down or “stay at home” order, many of us are finding that- like it or not, we are forced to stay put. This can look different for different people. Some of us are staying at home with our partner, children, or roommates. This […]

I Don’t Deserve Love

“I don’t deserve love.” Wow. That’s a powerful statement. Love can be a confusing and fickle concept. Deep down we all want to be loved, share love or experience love. However, sometimes our family history, our past relationships and our limited self beliefs can make us feel like “I don’t deserve love”. Feeling deserving of […]