Entries by Jessica Yaffa, LLC

When Your Partner Has Trauma

“70% Of Adults in the US have experienced some form of trauma in their lives.” – The National Council for Behavioral Health Trauma seems to be a new buzzword that has cropped up over the last decade, but trauma itself is anything but new. When we look at the statistics of trauma, we recognize that […]

Why You Put up With Mind Games in Relationships

Mind games. We are all too familiar with the ‘should I or shouldn’t I be the first to reach out’ or the ‘they read the text but haven’t responded’ or ‘they say one thing but do another’ debacle. Games and relationships are rough. They’re frustrating and leave us feeling confused and helpless. Read on for […]

Is Sleeping in Separate Beds Bad for a Marriage?

Is sleeping in separate beds bad for marriage? First off, it’s important to remember that nothing can be generalized as “good” or “bad” for marriage because marriages are so specific to the individuals in them. What might be “good” for your marriage may not work for others, including the decision of whether or not to […]

3 Ways You May Be Unintentionally Relationship Shaming

Relationships, partnerships, and marriages look much different nowadays than they have in the past. The outdated, traditional- man and woman- marriage is no longer the perceived norm. Thankfully, as a society, we are becoming much more inclusive– acknowledging and allowing space for all types of partnerships. Some people might have a polyamorous relationship. Some might […]

What if I Don’t Like My Mother-in-Law?

You love your partner. You and your partner have committed to each other, through the good times and the bad. But you didn’t commit to their family. Dealing with in-laws can be difficult. Especially, a mother-in-law. Your partner’s mother was their first caretaker, their first protector, and their biggest fan. When you then step into […]

Relationships and Self-Abandonment

When partners find themselves in a relationship riddled with issues, we often find that the root cause is self-abandonment. Whether it’s one partner or both, self-abandonment can create conflict, resentment, and a general feeling of dissatisfaction.  You might also be interested in: You Are Worthy of Love So, what is self-abandonment? According to NAMI.org, “Self-abandonment […]

Boundary-Setting and Guilt

Why Do We Feel Guilt When Setting Boundaries? Do you have a difficult time setting boundaries? If you do, you’re not alone. Setting boundaries in relationships can feel uncomfortable, especially if, growing up, we weren’t shown how to set healthy limits in our interactions with others. Yet, boundary setting can do more than just make […]

10 Questions to Ask Your Partner

When we’ve been paired up for quite some time, things can start to feel… well, a little stale. Over time, we get to know our partner inside and out – their habits, behaviors, and stories become predictable and there’s a lull in excitement as the days of getting to know each other have passed.  You […]