Am I Ready to be in a Relationship Again?

We know entering the dating scene after a breakup, divorce, or dry spell is no easy task, and that
you may be asking yourself, “am I ready to be in a relationship again?” This is an important
question, and you’ve come to the right place for relationship advice and support. Everyone is
different, and dating and breakups are personal, so there’s no one-size-fits-all advice or timeline
we can share, but there are questions that you can ask yourself, signs to look out for, and
resources at Jessica Yaffa Coaching Institute that can help you dip your toe back into the dating
pool.

Reflecting on the Past
A key component of readying yourself to enter a new relationship is healing from previous ones.
Whether it be romantic relationships, friendships, or childhood trauma, your past experiences can
have lasting impacts on your present life. As human beings, we form deep attachments to each
other, thus it is important to grieve lost relationships and allow time to heal.

Activities and practices that can help you heal from previous relationships include:

  • Talking to a trusted friend, therapist, or relationship coach
    Journaling
  • Practicing gratitude
  • Mindful meditation
  • Practicing self-compassion
  • Setting and respecting boundaries
  • Focusing on positive aspects of a breakup

Questions to Ask Yourself Before Entering a New Relationship
Reflecting on the relationship that has come to an end prior to re-entering the dating world can
help you feel more prepared, confident, and sure of what you are seeking in a new relationship.

The following questions can help you to understand positive and negative aspects of a previous
relationship and where there may be room from growth in a new relationship.

  • What led to this breakup?
  • What were the best and worst aspects of the relationship?
  • Did I miss any red flags?
  • Are there patterns and similarities between this relationship and others?
  • What coping mechanisms have helped me cope with the breakup?
  • What are my individual goals and goals for my next relationship?
  • What mistakes did I make in this relationship?
  • Have I accepted that this relationship is over, or are there unresolved feelings?
  • Have I fully grieved the loss of this relationship?
  • It can help to talk through your answers to these questions with a trusted friend or write them in a
    journal.

Signs You May Be Ready for a New Relationship
The only person who can tell you whether you are ready for a new relationship is you. While
seeking advice from friends, family, loved ones, a therapist, or a relationship coach can help you
heal from a breakup, your readiness to enter a new relationship should be something that feels
right in your gut.

It can be helpful to look for the following signs of emotional healing and
readiness when trying to arrive at an answer.

  • You feel at peace with the end of your previous relationship
  • You feel comfortable being alone and confident in yourself
  • The idea of meeting new people is exciting
  • You feel equipped to handle rejection
  • You have dating goals and qualities that you are looking for in a new partner

What Jessica Offers
We want to acknowledge that letting go of a previous relationship, and deciding if you are ready
to enter a new one can be a challenge. The Jessica Yaffa Coaching Institute offers relationship
coaching for individuals to help you better understand yourself in the context of an intimate
relationship. Coaching sessions are tailored to meet your unique needs and often surround topics
related to self-worth, unhealthy dynamics, toxic patterns, communication, pre-marital
preparation, and goal setting. The institute also offers online relational workshops in addition to
in person relational retreats that create a supportive and empowering environment to enhance
interpersonal connections and emotional intimacy. You can find more information about
relationship coaching and relational workshops and retreats at www.jessicayaffa.org