Social media has infiltrated every aspect of our life and our relationships are no exception. As more individuals share their lives online, we are entering an extremely dangerous arena where we no longer see each other as humans who make mistakes, but rather as people striving for perfection. We’ve all seen the hashtag #relationshipgoals across social media feeds, but just how does it perpetuate the false ideas surrounding love and relationship goals?
The way that the media has portrayed relationships—with a focus on vacation, engagements, money, and sex—is simply wrong. Genuine and fulfilling relationships require two individuals to share passions and a vision for the future. There needs to be legitimate connection and respect for each other’s hopes and dreams. Rather than feeding into the materialistic and fake world of social media, try taking a moment to actually set some healthy relationship goals with your significant other. Browse the ideas below for just a few examples of how you can grow deep and meaningful relationships even amidst the fakeness of social media.
1. Date Nights
Prioritize one night a week where you and your significant other spend time doing something both of you truly enjoy—grab a bite to eat, head to the movies, or maybe even take a trip to the beach.
2. Words of Affirmation
Take time out of each day to share positive words of affirmation. Leave love notes, send special texts, or just make sure to always share reasons why you love one another before bed.
3. Enjoy the Moment
Many of us can get caught up in the fast-pace of everyday life — take a moment to breathe and enjoy the current moment. Being present with your significant other can build a great bond.
4. Daily Emotional Check-ins
With stress from work, school, friends, and just life in general, it’s important to always check in with your partner to make sure there is nothing they need to vent about.
5. Work out Together
Being active is an awesome way to bond with your partner while also reaping the health benefits. Go on a run, get to a gym, or maybe even consider signing up for a 5k or marathon together. Striving for a similar goal can help to strengthen your relationship.
While we can get caught up in the day-to-day of our lives, consider volunteering/giving back to your community with your significant other. Head to an animal shelter, a soup kitchen, or even an elderly home. Helping those in need can strengthen the bond in your relationship.
Are there any places that you and your partner would like to travel? It doesn’t have to be far, but getting out of your typical comfort zone is a sure-fire way to make memories with your partner.
8. Try Something New
We can get really used to our daily routines, and it is always exciting to try something new—especially when you are doing it with your partner. It can be as simple as going to a new park together or as extreme as signing up to go sky-diving.
9. Learn a New Skill
Investing in skill-building with your significant other is a fantastic way to bond while learning and growing yourself. Try toastmaters (a group for public speaking), maybe try an art class, or even head to your local community college and sign up for a class that interests the both of you.
10. Give Back to Those in Need
Take a look around your community and figure out what you could do to give back to others that may not be as fortunate as you. Could you donate some old clothes or toys?
11. Couples Workshop
Consider checking out our couples workshop as a way to learn better communication techniques, uncover toxic habits, and ultimately strengthen your relationship.
The eleven ideas above are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to meaningful relationship goals. Although social media may show the more materialistic and fake side of relationships, have the courage to break out of the mold and actually look for ways to build a meaningful relationship with your partner.