essica offers one-on-one relationship coaching for those who are at risk of engaging in, or are in the process of healing from traumatic relationships. As a survivor herself, she understands the difficulty that exists surrounding the disclosing of our thoughts, feelings, and decision making process as it pertains to relationship trauma. While there are often people in our lives who truly love us, and ultimately want what’s best for us, it can often take the accountability, empathy, and compassion of a professional coach (who happens to have engaged in the journey) in order to fully come to terms with what we have endured, while also creating space for long-term shifting in our belief systems surrounding who we are and what we are deserving of, both within and outside of intimate relationships.
Ms. Yaffa works alongside treatment centers, therapists, first responders, faith leaders, teachers, parents, and survivors themselves as an adjunct service provider in a very unique and specialized capacity. If you are seeing an individual in a professional capacity, no matter your role, and believe they may benefit from some additional support surrounding their relationship history, Jessica offers face-to-face, online, and phone coaching sessions for survivors around the country.
Whether we are aware or not, all of us grow up receiving messages surrounding our worth and value as people. The meaning we subconsciously attach to these messages directly influence who it is we choose to be in intimate relationships with. Many of us recognize over time that we seem to be picking the same “type” of person and often don’t understand why it is we continue to end up in this same space. Relationship coaching provides a safe and unconditional space to transform the beliefs we have held onto, sometimes for years, about who we are (or aren’t), what we are deserving of, and where our worth and value comes from (or doesn’t). As we work towards creating a new “internal story”, our external choices pertaining to relationships begin to shift naturally. This is where long-lasting change occurs, rather than focusing on the toxic relationship, it is imperative that we focus on what it is that we hold true while re-writing the story that has existed long before we entered into intimacy.
Two people show up in relationship with their own stories about who they are, both separately and collectively. We work hard, sometimes to the point of exhaustion in order to change either ourselves or our partner in order to “fit” into what it is we determine we (or they) need in order to have a “successful” relationship. Couples coaching provides a safe and non-judgmental space to receive support around how it is our individual perception of self directly influences how we show up in intimate relationship, while also exploring the ways our partner is affected by our “living out our story”. Whether you are wanting to lay a solid foundation for healthy communication, vulnerability, authenticity, and connection, or have hit a large road-block, couples coaching can positively influence navigating the complexities that exist in each of these scenarios.
Marriage is beautiful, and marriage can be hard. We often enter into marriage having a picture in our minds of what our life will now look like with the partner we have chosen to be our forever-mate, only to discover that we sometimes feel like we actually don’t know them at all. Marriage coaching provides an unconditional space to flush out the obstacles that can arise around the “real life stuff” that surfaces when we add finances, careers, gender roles, children, sex, extended family, and all of the other circumstances that can provide us with opportunities to grow together rather than apart.
Most of the people that engage in coaching services also have a therapist. The primary difference between coaching and therapy is that a therapist will often lead us into spaces where we uncover our past in order to learn, grow, and heal. A coach’s focus is around allowing his/her client to bring their past into the present so that they are able to shift perspectives, behavior, and ultimately their way of being, all of which is driven by the client. Coaches and therapists often work in conjunction with one another in order to allow for a client to experience the fullness of healing and thriving.
Everyone. We all have the desire to live in healthy, happy, connected, and fulfilling relationships. With the additional support, accountability, and connection that a relationship coach provides, we can explore new ways of thinking and being both in relation to our current partner, as well as in future relationships for those who have experienced unhealthy patterns in the past. Preparing ourselves to live from a space of wholeness and fullness benefits every area of our lives, including but not limited to intimacy.